Zip it

This is a post on the blog Girl Game by Sofia.


Interesting about this is the following two comments.

By Bob

The issue of respect puts many high-end betas like me in a quandary. Presented with the opportunity to either sleep with a girl right away, or to get her number and date her for a while, one must choose between instant gratification or the risky investment in a new relationship – hopefully, one with lots of sex.

However, if the choice presents itself, one must remember that the opportunity to have sex immediately with a new girl was there. Even if she did not put out the first night, the very fact that she could have would be a hindrance to developing a respectful relationship.

Women can lose the appearance of value without even putting out too soon if a man thinks he (or any other man) could have convinced her to do so. In this sort of case, perception is reality; women who want respect have to make it clear that she NEVER has sex until she is in a respectful, committed LTR.

By Mr. N

The problem with your advice is that it assumes women are capable of “waiting a long time” and judging “when he has developed a lasting trust in you.”

Young targets are far too naive to realize their bodies themselves are conspiring against them. With just light kissing and petting a woman in heat’s body will be screaming, “now, now, Now!”

As far as the developing lasting trust standard for the most part men know the right things to say at the right time if they want to use you. Why do you think PUAs are developing the multiple location date if not a tool to pack more of those bonding experiences that build trust women love so much into an even shorter timespan?

Your post is definitely on the right track. So many youths are eager to give it up and don’t realize what their potential future mates think of it.

Funny enough I can completely agree with this. Being a young man myself, I've been trough the worst meaningless sex and relationships can offer, and had some fun along the way. Even though now I'm not completely proud of what I've done, I can still look back at it as a lesson learned. Using these lessons to keep my current relationship in balance with out indulging in my primitive lust.