Leonard Cohen

what is a saint? a saint is someone who has achieved a remote human possibility. it is impossible to say what that possibility is. i think it has something to do with the energy of love. contact with this energy results in the exercise of a kind of balance in the chaos of existence. a saint does not dissolve the chaos; if he did the world would have changed long ago. i do not think that a saint dissolves the chaos even for himself, for there is something arrogant and warlike in the notion of a man setting the universe in order. it is a kind of balance that is his glory. he rides the drifts like an escaped ski. his course is the caress of the hill. his track is a drawing of the snow in a moment of its particular arrangement with wind and rock. something in him so loves the world that he gives himself to the laws of gravity and chance. far from flying with the angels, he traces with the fidelity of a seismograph needle the state of the solid bloody landscape. his house is dangerous and finite, but he is at home in the world. he can love the shape of human beings, the fine and twisted shapes of the heart. it is good to have among us such men, such balancing monsters of love.

- Leonard Cohen

Walking with no end in mind

Ever taken a really long walk, without any specific place to go to?

I've taken a lot of them lately. None have been more productive than the one I just took.

I've recently had a rough couple of weeks, since around this time a few years ago a collection of horrible events took place in my life. Plus a few things I've done in the past year that I'm not completely proud of, which right now are beginning to bare weight on my conscience.

This walk really helped me clear things up, not fully but enough to keep me going for a while.

Being some one who practices meditation frequently, by walking or sitting in a quiet wooded areas.

I am free to let my mind flow through and think of things I usually can't during my everyday life.

I call for everyone to take atleast one walk a week to clear their minds, you'll be thankful in the end.

Zip it

This is a post on the blog Girl Game by Sofia.


Interesting about this is the following two comments.

By Bob

The issue of respect puts many high-end betas like me in a quandary. Presented with the opportunity to either sleep with a girl right away, or to get her number and date her for a while, one must choose between instant gratification or the risky investment in a new relationship – hopefully, one with lots of sex.

However, if the choice presents itself, one must remember that the opportunity to have sex immediately with a new girl was there. Even if she did not put out the first night, the very fact that she could have would be a hindrance to developing a respectful relationship.

Women can lose the appearance of value without even putting out too soon if a man thinks he (or any other man) could have convinced her to do so. In this sort of case, perception is reality; women who want respect have to make it clear that she NEVER has sex until she is in a respectful, committed LTR.

By Mr. N

The problem with your advice is that it assumes women are capable of “waiting a long time” and judging “when he has developed a lasting trust in you.”

Young targets are far too naive to realize their bodies themselves are conspiring against them. With just light kissing and petting a woman in heat’s body will be screaming, “now, now, Now!”

As far as the developing lasting trust standard for the most part men know the right things to say at the right time if they want to use you. Why do you think PUAs are developing the multiple location date if not a tool to pack more of those bonding experiences that build trust women love so much into an even shorter timespan?

Your post is definitely on the right track. So many youths are eager to give it up and don’t realize what their potential future mates think of it.

Funny enough I can completely agree with this. Being a young man myself, I've been trough the worst meaningless sex and relationships can offer, and had some fun along the way. Even though now I'm not completely proud of what I've done, I can still look back at it as a lesson learned. Using these lessons to keep my current relationship in balance with out indulging in my primitive lust.

The human seasons by John Keats

Four Seasons fill the Measure of the year;
Four Seasons are there in the mind of Man.
He hath his lusty spring when fancy clear
Takes in all beauty with an easy span:
He hath his Summer, when luxuriously
He chews the honied cud of fair spring thoughts,
Till, in his Soul dissolv'd they come to be
Part of himself. He hath his Autumn ports
And Havens of repose, when his tired wings
Are folded up, and he content to look
On Mists in idleness: to let fair things
Pass by unheeded as a threshhold brook.
He hath his Winter too of pale Misfeature,
Or else he would forget his mortal nature.

Thrashin'